{"id":1504,"date":"2018-02-12T12:57:46","date_gmt":"2018-02-12T12:57:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/phlebotomyexaminer.com\/?p=1504"},"modified":"2018-09-14T16:36:40","modified_gmt":"2018-09-14T16:36:40","slug":"bad-idea-to-make-friends-at-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/phlebotomyexaminer.com\/bad-idea-to-make-friends-at-work\/","title":{"rendered":"Is It a Bad Idea to Make Friends at Work?"},"content":{"rendered":"

We spend a lot of time at work. When you have a full-time job, you’re usually there for at least eight hours. Your co-workers can end up feeling like your only confidants when you’re working. But, it’s not always a good idea to become close friends with the people in the workplace.<\/p>\n

You might have some things in common with your co-workers, and there’s no reason not to talk with them during your coffee break. But, there is usually a difference between real, genuine friends and the friends that you make at work. In fact, if you become too close to your co-workers, it can sometimes lead to significant problems.<\/p>\n

Is making friends at work an asset or a liability? Some people can make it work. After all, you end up spending a good part of your day with them. Unfortunately, it’s that same idea that can end up making a friendship turn sour. If you end up falling out with someone, it can create a negative working environment for everyone.<\/p>\n

Getting together with your co-workers for a few minutes at a time isn’t a problem. It’s normal to want to have people to talk with throughout the day. But, letting them into your personal life isn’t always a good idea.<\/p>\n

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Why You Shouldn’t Have Friends at Work<\/h3>\n

This guide will explore the reasons why it’s a bad idea to make friends at work. It might feel like a controversial subject since you probably spend a lot of time during the day with these people. But, there is a difference between being friendly and social, and letting your co-workers in on every detail of your life.<\/p>\n

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Think about your closest friends and the things you tell them. Would you want your co-workers to know the same information? Many times, we let our co-workers be our friends out of convenience, but it can lead to problems at work. If you’re still not convinced that it’s a bad idea, let’s dive into a few reasons why you should be cautious about at-work friendships.<\/p>\n

They Talk About Your Personal Life with Others<\/h4>\n

When you share something personal, or maybe even embarrassing with someone, you should have confidence that they’ll keep it to themselves. Telling your co-workers all about your ‘dirty laundry’ can put you at risk for keeping things private. We live in a world where social media reigns supreme. If your co-workers decide to share your secret stories all over Facebook or Twitter, it could lead to a lot of embarrassment.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t have to be that extreme to cause problems. Perhaps you consider yourself close to a few people you work with and tell them something personal. Before you know it, that personal information has circulated the office. For some reason, a workplace can quickly turn into a free-for-all when it comes to gossip. If you don’t want your co-workers meddling in your personal affairs or talking about them with other people, it’s best not to dive too deep into a friendship.<\/p>\n

They May Be Different Outside of Work<\/h4>\n

A workplace environment isn’t exactly the best place to get to know someone’s real personality. Usually, people are putting their best foot forward in a professional setting. You might get along with someone well, but there’s a good chance they aren’t fully able to be themselves at work. Think about it this way \u2013 are you the same at your place of employment as you are with your other friends and family?<\/p>\n

The person that works in the cubicle next to yours might be friendly and fun to talk to throughout the day. But, maybe on the weekends, he goes to bars and clubs you wouldn’t spend your time in. You might have different ideas of fun outside of the office atmosphere.<\/p>\n

Additionally, you might want to spend time with someone outside of work only to find that they don’t like the same activities as you. So, you’re the one who ends up getting rejected. Either situation can either hurt or cause embarrassment. If either person gets their feelings hurt or decides they don’t like the other’s activities, it can make your time working together awkward and embarrassing.<\/p>\n

Your Conversations Are About Work<\/h4>\n

Unless you love every aspect of your job, there’s a good chance you don’t want it to be the topic of every conversation. Unfortunately, having friends from work can make your career your only talking point. You might think you have a lot in common with the people you work with. But, sometimes the only thing you have in common is the job itself.<\/p>\n

You might be able to talk about the job for a while, including your likes and dislikes. But, when it becomes the center of every conversation, it can get tiring. It’s a clear sign that you and your co-workers probably don’t have as much in common as you might have thought. Talking about work when you’re outside of the office can get tiring quickly.<\/p>\n

Cliques Form Too Easily<\/h4>\n

Remember in high school when it seemed like everyone had their specific group of friends to hang out with? Sometimes it worked, other times it made people feel excluded. Unfortunately, a workplace environment is often no different. Cliques are common in office environments<\/strong><\/a>. If you’re new to the building or don’t fit in with a particular circle, it can create some awkward tension.<\/p>\n

If you’re in a ‘competing clique,’ it can also create tension and may reflect poorly on your work performance. Your time in the office shouldn’t be focused on friendships, including friendships to avoid. Businesses, where everyone can work together in an open environment, are healthier and more productive for everyone involved.<\/p>\n

You’re in Competition with Them<\/h4>\n

You might think you have a few close friends at the office. But, what if you and your best friend were up for the same promotion? Or, what if you were buddies with your boss, but when they had to discipline one of your actions at work it created problems? Mixing friendships in the workplace is dangerous for this reason. When it comes down to it, most people are still going to be looking out for themselves at the end of the day.<\/p>\n

If it sounds harsh, that’s because it is. It’s easy to assume your ‘friends’ wouldn’t do that. But it’s unlikely anyone would turn down a big raise or compromise their leadership because you’ve gone out for a few drinks after work before.<\/p>\n

Because of this, getting too attached to the people you work with can be dangerous. They can let you down quickly and walk all over you if it benefits them. But, they could also be holding you back from getting what you want out of your job. You shouldn’t feel obligated to give up a promotion or work harder because your work friend wants the same thing.<\/p>\n

You Can Compare Yourself to Others<\/h4>\n

Not only are you in competition with your co-workers<\/strong><\/a>, but you may end up comparing yourself to one another. If you were to find out someone’s salary at work, you could feel slighted that you don’t make as much. Or, they may resent you for what you make if their salary isn’t on par. This can be especially awkward if you both do the same job or hold a similar position. It’s nearly impossible not to compare yourself to others once you know what they’re making.<\/p>\n

You might also compare the types of offices you have, benefits, etc. Again, a conversation between co-workers will often turn to work-related topics. Eventually, their own work experiences will be a topic of conversation. If they don’t add up to yours, the imbalance can create problems. This isn’t necessarily anyone’s fault. But, it can create a rift in relationships and an awkward work environment.<\/p>\n

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Resentment from Others<\/h4>\n

Let’s say you do have a good friend who works with you. Maybe you’re even close to someone in a position of power. But, if that person sticks up for you or acts differently around you than they do others, your other co-workers could start to feel angry. They may even resent you. It’s easy to feel like someone is getting special treatment in an office. If anyone feels that way about your relationship with a co-worker or manager, it could lead to a lot of problems.<\/p>\n

Dealing with Different ‘Types’ of People<\/h4>\n

When you make friends with the people you work with, you’ll quickly start to notice differences in their personalities. Everyone tends to play a role in the workplace, whether they realize it or not. Unfortunately, these roles can negatively impact you.<\/p>\n

For example, one of your friends at work could be a bad influence. They might encourage you to go out to a bar after work and have a drink. Then, they might encourage you to keep drinking, or make other bad choices, etc. Of course, you can always say no, but the influence is still there, and you may eventually give in.<\/p>\n

Another work friend could be a ‘downer,’ and may always need your moral support to get through the day. Because you’re friends, they’ll count on you to make things easier for them. It won’t take long for that to become utterly exhausting. It will also take away from your work, and your performance may suffer.<\/p>\n

Finally, you could find a friend at work that ends up being kind of a ‘flake.’ These are people who seem great up front, but aren’t reliable when you might need them.<\/p>\n

Personalities don’t have to be this extreme for them to cause problems. You’ll learn what people are like in the office quickly, and that can make it easier to know who to stay away from.<\/p>\n

How to Avoid Being Friends with Co-Workers<\/h3>\n

Now that you know some of the risks of being friends with the people you work with, you might be wondering how to avoid it. After all, we need human\/social interaction.<\/p>\n

It’s normal to talk to people at work, and you can even have fun doing it. There are bound to be co-workers you get along with more than others. But, the reasons stated above should make it an easy choice not to get overly-close with anyone, especially outside the office.<\/p>\n

So, how can you avoid being close friends with the people you work with and still be kind and not come across as rude? Let’s look at a few suggestions. The key is to set boundaries for yourself with the people you work with:<\/p>\n